The Struggle of Grown-Up Dependency on Others for Driving: A Personal Journey

Personal experiences highlight the challenges and emotions that come with not having a driving license as an adult. This story delves into the resilience and frustration of someone who, despite numerous attempts, did not learn to drive until well into adulthood.

My High School Struggle

Between my junior and senior years of high school, I had the opportunity to take driver's training. After a few days of training, the instructor was confident enough to say, 'You need to practice driving.' However, this enthusiasm was met with a significant obstacle. At the time, my dad was about 68 and very set in his ways. He staunchly refused to let me drive his car, stating, ‘No kid is gonna drive my car! ’ This was a major setback, especially since all of my older siblings could drive, and my parents knew I was eager to learn.

I am the youngest of ten children, and my next closest sibling is six years older than me. By the time it was my turn, my father was too ill and unable to teach me. My mother attempted to teach me once, but her attempts were limited and ultimately unsuccessful. Driven by necessity and a strong desire to drive, I still faced numerous challenges.

A One-Time Lesson

On the day my mother tried teaching me, we were in an empty parking lot of a middle school. She was in the passenger seat while I was behind the wheel. I started the car and gently pressed the gas, only to hit the brakes too hard, causing the car to jerk. My mother promptly reacted, yelling, 'No, no, no more.' She got out of the car, got down on the ground, and kissed the car, believing in its purity and my potential. However, that was the end of our short lesson. My lack of practice and experience made it clear that I needed more than just a one-time lesson.

Public Transportation and Limited Flexibility

After high school, I moved to a city with excellent public transportation. However, this solution only provided limited benefits. After getting married with a child and facing the challenges of a growing family, I realized my dependency on others for driving was still a significant issue. With my husband only having a manual car at the time, I was unable to share his vehicle and my driving skills lagged behind.

Now, at the age of 26, I am still learning how to drive, relying on public transportation and rides from my husband. The prices of public transportation continue to rise, leaving me with fewer options for mobility. Buying groceries, for example, is a struggle. When I want to shop at Wal-Mart or Target, I can only carry what I can fit in my limited space, or bring my son and his stroller, shopping just what fits in the stroller. There is a local grocery store that provides home delivery with a minimum purchase of $100, but this is not a feasible option for most of my shopping needs.

The Wish to Learn Earlier

Reflecting on my past, I cannot help but wish I had learned to drive earlier in life. By delaying my driving skills, I have become more dependent on others than necessary. The ability to drive would not only enhance my independence but also allow me to share and use my husband’s car more effectively when needed. The frustration of not being able to drive, especially now that I am an adult, is palpable. Despite these challenges, I am determined to achieve my goal and overcome my dependency on others for driving.

Conclusion

The journey to learning how to drive later in life is a testament to perseverance and the desire for independence. Despite the obstacles, it is never too late to learn. This story aims to inspire those who are in similar situations, showing that with determination and support, it is possible to overcome such challenges.