The Importance of Having a Pet: A Parent's Perspective on Childhood and Responsibility

My philosophy, especially if one lives alone, is to have a pet. If apartment rules are restrictive, get some plants. If all else fails, have a bird feeder. Having something in life that depends on your care is emotionally fulfilling. This is why I strongly believe that every child should have a pet. But it's not just for the child; it's a family affair. Pets require love and attention, which teach children essential life skills and a sense of responsibility.

Teaching Responsibility through Pet Ownership

Children learn that when they care for a pet, the pet is dependent on them. This can be a powerful lesson in responsibility, especially as they grow older and become accountable for their actions. Whether it's feeding a dog, cleaning a fish tank, or even just petting a bird, children begin to understand the value of taking care of others.

However, it's important to consider whether the child is ready for the responsibility that comes with pet ownership. Some kids might be too young or too impulsive to truly handle the commitment. For instance, a dog or cat requires more care than a goldfish, which only needs regular feeding and tank cleaning. Parental involvement and support are crucial in ensuring that the child is capable of handling the daily responsibilities.

The Tragedy and the Joy: Remembering a Pet

Welcome to the reality of pet ownership: the joy of having a pet, and the inevitable grief when a beloved pet passes away. Last month, we said goodbye to our 14-year-old dog, Abbey. The day after her passing, our 4-year-old daughter, Meredith, was in tears, missing her best friend. She asked if we could write a letter to God, so that when Abbey was in heaven, God would recognize her.

Meredith dictated a heartfelt letter to God, asking Him to take care of her dog when she reached heaven. We addressed the envelope, dropped it in the post box, and waited. A few days later, a package wrapped in gold paper appeared on our front porch. Inside was a book by Mr. Rogers called When a Pet Dies. Taped to the inside were the words Meredith had written, along with a picture of Abbey and Meredith. The note from God read:

Abbey arrived safely in heaven. Having the picture was a big help, and I recognized her right away. Abbey isn't sick anymore; her spirit is here with me just like it stays in your heart. Since we don't need our bodies in heaven, I don't have any pockets to keep your picture in, so I am sending it back to you in this little book for you to keep and have something to remember Abbey by. Thank you for the beautiful letter and thank you for your mother for helping you write it and send it to me. What a wonderful mother you have! I picked her especially for you. I send my blessings every day and remember that I love you very much. By the way, I am everywhere, wherever there is love. Abbey will run and play until you come to be with her forever.

Love, God

This heartwarming message brought comfort to Meredith and taught her that pets are always a part of our lives, even when they are no longer physically with us.

Pet Ownership and Emotional Fulfillment

Having a pet provides emotional fulfillment and a sense of companionship. Pets offer unconditional love, which can be especially beneficial for children. They help reduce stress and anxiety, boost self-esteem, and provide a sense of security. Pets can also encourage more physical activity, such as regular walks, which is beneficial for both the child and the pet.

Furthermore, pets can serve as a form of therapy, helping children develop better social skills and communication. They learn to trust and be patient, which are valuable life skills. The bond between a child and their pet can be a strong foundation for a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

Conclusion: The Value of Pet Ownership

While every child may not be ready for a pet, the benefits of pet ownership can be immense. Pets teach responsibility, provide emotional support, and offer a sense of companionship. As we reflect on the love and joy that pets bring into our lives, we can also learn valuable lessons from the loss and grief they sometimes bring. Ultimately, whether or not a child should have a pet depends on the family's readiness and ability to take on the responsibilities that come with it. For many, the joy and fulfillment that pets bring to a child's life more than justify the commitment.