Reflections on Motherhood: How I Address My Matriarchs

The term for my mother often holds a profound significance rooted in cultural and familial ties. Throughout my childhood, different words were used to address her, reflecting the rich tapestry of linguistic and cultural expressions in my family. Each word carries its own sentiment and impact, but respect and affection are constants.

Mom: A Long Childhood Companion

Since my childhood, the simple yet profound term 'Mom' has been a constant. In Tamiliar culture, the term 'Maa' or 'Amma' is more commonly used, but across different contexts and settings, words like 'Mum', 'Mummy', 'Mata Shri', and 'Mother' are also prevalent. These various terms each have their own charm and significance, reflecting the diverse ways one can express love and respect.

Personal Reflections and Experiences

I often refer to her as 'Maa' and occasionally slip into 'Mumma' or 'Mummy' out of habit. However, these terms are sometimes met with a mix of amusement and reprimand. Once, when I called her 'Mumma', she teased me, saying, 'Angrezon ki aulad bante jaa rahe hai aaj kal ke baache beta humne bhi padhayi ki hai apni maa ko maa hi bola hai itna pyaara lagta hai yeh shabd pad nahi inko mommy moms mum kehna hai.' I wanted to respond with 'angrezon ki nahi aap ki aulaad hoon' but knew that would not end well.

The Significance of 'Amma'

As a Tamilian, I grew up addressing my mother as 'Amma' or 'Amma jain.' This term carries deep respect and love. Whenever she passes me a dish, I instinctively call out 'Amma.' It's a term of endearment that transcends mere familial connections and evokes a sense of heritage and cultural identity. Even now, I remember her as 'Amma' because of the rich history and memories associated with it.

The Evolution of a Matriarch

My mother, once a kind and generous individual, fell victim to a series of unfortunate events. She married the wrong man, leading to an alcoholic influenced lifestyle. Though she struggled and faced significant personal challenges, her love and affection for her children remained. Each term we use to address her reflects this complex and multifaceted personality.

Personal Tribulations and Memories

My mother's journey was marked by pain and resilience. She went through the tragedy of her brother's untimely death and her own battle with cancer. Despite these challenges, she maintained a certain resilience and kindness. Her later years were marked by addiction and a life filled with strife. While 'Mom' and similar terms often express care and affection, the term 'Flawed' accurately describes the complex person she was.

The Last Picture and Final Words

For me, the term 'Flawed' does not diminish her importance. It is a acknowledgment of the complex nature of her life. This picture of her, taken during her later years, is one of the last things I remember. It captures a rare moment of her outdoor life, a stark reminder of the life she led and the person she was. In her own unique way, she was a matriarch, and her impact will always be remembered.

My tribute to her is less about the flawed aspects of her life and more about the love, care, and resilience she exhibited, even in the face of adversity. Whether it's 'Maa,' 'Amma,' or simply 'Mom,' each term is a testament to the deep love and respect I have for her.