Understanding the Duration of Love Bombing from a Narcissist

Love bombing from a narcissist is a tactic they use to win the confidence and trust of their target, often referred to as 'new supply.' This phase typically lasts from a few weeks to several months but can extend to much longer durations, depending on a variety of factors.

Initial Stages: Euphoric and Overwhelming

The love bombing phase can be intense, involving a flood of attention, affection, and admiration. This period is designed to create a strong emotional bond and can feel euphoric and overwhelming for the target. The narcissist showers the new supply with gifts, promises, and flattery, making the target feel extremely special and desired.

The Diminishing Phase: Secured or Losing Interest

However, as the relationship progresses, the intensity of love bombing often diminishes. This can happen for two main reasons: either the narcissist feels they have secured their new supply or they start to lose interest. It’s important to note that even after the initial love bombing phase, the narcissist may continue to use manipulation tactics to maintain control.

Manipulation, Devaluation, and Emotional Withdrawal

The diminishing of the love bombing phase can sometimes be followed by manipulation, devaluation, and emotional withdrawal as the narcissist shifts their focus or seeks new sources of validation. These tactics are designed to keep the target off balance and to prevent them from recognizing the manipulative nature of the relationship.

Personal Experience: A Two-Year Saga

Experiences with narcissists can vary significantly. For instance, in my case, I was married, and the decision to end my marriage involved a complex emotional and legal journey. When the narcissist began love bombing me, I felt compelled to stay due to the threat of blackmail, a personal battle, and my belief in the chosen path. Despite the red flags, I was determined to stay and fit into the reality I had created. The love bombing phase lasted for two years, during which I was pursuing a divorce and navigating a tumultuous relationship.

Understanding the Duration and Tactics

The duration and intensity of love bombing can vary based on the narcissist's personality, the dynamics of the relationship, and the new supply's responses. As the narcissist seeks to entrench themselves, they may continue to use various manipulation tactics, even after the initial love bombing phase has ended.

In conclusion, love bombing from a narcissist is a complex and manipulative process. Understanding that it can last for extended periods, and recognizing the tactics used can be crucial in protecting oneself from falling victim to such schemes. Recognizing the red flags and trusting one's instincts are key in navigating such relationships.