Dealing with the Burden of Affordability: Coping with Mother’s Passing and Funeral Costs

When a mother's passing leaves you emotionally and financially strained, the process of planning her funeral becomes a daunting task.#160; In my situation, my mother passed away only a few days ago, and I am at a loss on how to pay for the funeral expenses. It is a challenging feat, and knowing where to begin is overwhelming. Cremation, in particular, is a more affordable and personalized option that I am considering. My son Jake and I have agreed that my ashes will be scattered in a location that holds significance for both of us.

Coping with Grief Through Emotion

Embracing the catharsis of grief is crucial as you navigate the emotional turmoil that comes with losing a loved one. You must allow yourself to fully experience the storm of emotions, and this will help you move through the pain more quickly. Grief is a transformative process that reshapes you, making you stronger in ways you may not yet understand. It is essential to give yourself permission to cry and let those tears cleanse your soul.

Losing Control and Embracing Catharsis

As you cry and grieve, remember that releasing control, judgement, and expectations is part of the healing process. My experience tells me that throwing yourself into the emotional river allows you to emerge cleansed and empowered. It is scary to lose control, but it is natural for the cathartic process. When the internal storm is raging, trust that you will find your way out. Experience the pain and transform into a wiser and better person through this experience.

Steps Towards Healing and Closure

Before you begin the process of handling your mother's funeral, here are several steps that can help guide you:

First, take a deep breath.#160;Emotionally, you may be overwhelmed by the sudden loss, but taking a deep breath can give you a moment to center yourself. Complete the legal procedures.#160;This includes managing her estate, registering her death, and obtaining a death certificate. Proper legal arrangements provide some much-needed clarity and peace of mind. Acknowledge the loss.#160;Accept that your mother is no longer physically present, and that this is the reality you must live with. Those who try to be strong might suppress their emotions, but this only prolongs the healing process. Real acceptance leads to true healing. Give yourself time to heal.#160;Every person grieves in their own way and at their own pace. Trust the process and allow yourself to heal, even if it takes longer than expected. Healing is a gradual journey, but taking it one step at a time is essential. Go through her belongings.#160;Choose which items to keep and which to let go of. Keep tangible memories such as a shirt or jacket that you shared with her. Cherish these keepsakes as they embody your shared memories. Keeping her perfume is also a meaningful way to hold onto her scent and presence. Find comfort in her messages.#160;Lose yourself in the world of grief, but be aware of the signs that she is still with you. You may experience a sense of her voice offering guidance and advice, or find physical signs such as finding dimes on the ground. In my case, I discovered clusters of dimes which I attribute to my late mother's presence. I keep these as a symbol of her ongoing love and guidance.

By following these steps, you can start to find a sense of closure and begin to heal from the loss of your mother. Remember, grief is a personal and deeply individual experience, and there is no right or wrong way to process it. Be patient with yourself, and allow yourself to find your path to healing.