Covert Narcissism: Can an Adult Suddenly Develop This Personality Disorder?

Can an Adult Suddenly Develop Narcissistic Personality Disorder?

Introduction

The idea of an adult suddenly developing narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is often met with skepticism. The belief that personality disorders are typically diagnosed in early adulthood or may result from significant traumatic experiences, such as a head injury, is widely held. However, it is not uncommon for individuals to exhibit covert narcissistic behaviors that gradually become more pronounced over time.

The Case of My Mother: Late-Life Narcissism

My mother's descent into narcissistic behavior is a case in point. Her transformation from a seemingly normal individual to someone exhibiting severe narcissistic traits has been attributed to several factors, including a move to the countryside where she found herself isolated from social interactions. Loneliness and the subsequent reliance on alcohol as a coping mechanism appear to have exacerbated her underlying personality traits, potentially leading to a more overt display of narcissistic behavior.

Covert Narcissism and Its Manifestations

Covert narcissists are often skilled at concealing their narcissistic tendencies, leading to a sudden and dramatic revelation of their true nature. This contrast with what others may have perceived as a normal, courteous, and even warm personality is stark. A prime example of this phenomenon is Chris Watts, a case that demonstrated how a seemingly stable and well-liked individual could exhibit shocking and violent behavior.

The Rise of Chris Watts

Chris Watts lived a life that appeared to be perfect from the outside. At least to his acquaintances, friends, and family. However, behind the facade, he was a covert narcissist who had been meticulously building and maintaining a carefully crafted external image. His wife, who posted about her family life on Facebook, was his silent enabler, presenting a picture of a loving and devoted family. This covert behavior was carefully hidden from public view for years, which only intensified when the fa?ade began to crack.

The stresses of affairs, financial pressures, and the mounting exposure of his hidden life eventually led Chris Watts to a breaking point. The stress of being unmasked and the fear of exposure to his mistress, co-workers, and his community were too much to bear. The decision to murder his pregnant wife and two children was a desperate attempt to start a new life free from that shadow.

Why Not Divorce?

One might question why Chris Watts did not simply divorce his wife instead of resorting to such extreme measures. The answer lies in the core nature of narcissism. Narcissists are driven by self-interest and the desire for control. They are willing to do whatever it takes to maintain their image and avoid exposure, even if it means harming others. This makes divorce an unacceptable option for someone with a severe case of narcissistic personality disorder, as it would force them to confront their true self and the reality of their past actions.

The Nature of Covert Narcissism

Covert narcissists often exhibit traits such as a lack of empathy, manipulation, and a profound need for control, all without being overtly hostile or confrontational. They may appear to be compliant and even supportive on the surface but are secretly seeking to manipulate situations to their advantage. Unlike overt narcissists, who may be more public and aggressive with their manipulation, covert narcissists have learned to hide their true nature behind a veneer of normalcy.

Conclusion

While the idea of an adult suddenly developing narcissistic personality disorder might seem far-fetched, cases like Chris Watts' demonstrate that it is possible for individuals to hide their true nature for years before a sudden and dramatic change in behavior erupts. The stress of unmasking, fear of exposure, and the need for self-preservation can push someone with covert narcissistic tendencies to extreme and violent actions.

Narcissistotism, whether overt or covert, is a complex and often misunderstood personality disorder. Understanding the signs and behaviors of these individuals can help in providing the necessary support and intervention to address the underlying issues.